While I was working on the rough draft for this post a scenario popped into my head. Two dueling moms ( complete with light sabers ) the so called ” perfect ” mom and her slightly less than perfect nemesis. If you frequent any sort of social media you have undoubtedly come across ” mommy shaming ” in one form or another. It comes in many forms.
The Shady Shamer
Throws shade at moms whom they deem as the ” undesirables “. They shame sneakily and often ( 99.999% ) of the time behind your back.
The “Helpful” Shamer
They shame under the premise of ” just trying to help “. Oh, you really shouldn’t let little Timmy drink chocolate milk, it can rot his teeth. Gasp!!! Frozen chicken nuggets!!! I only serve my kids homemade, free-range chicken, the frozen kind is full of fillers! Soda, for shame! Try some organic, spring water with fruit added to it. They’ll never know the difference.
The Social Media Shamer
Posts 100+ pics of her breastfeeding ( I’m 100% behind breastfeeding ) with the caption Breast is best #NoFormulashallpasstheselips. Her brood look like a walking Gap ad always perfectly dressed, make-up on “Fleek” what does that even mean?! She has no problem pointing out your baby barf stained shirt and bed head complete with this morning’s Cheerios. She is vicious and unrelenting, and 9 times out of 10 struggling just like you.
It Takes A Village
No truer words have ever been spoken. We are moms we have different views and beliefs and parenting styles, but, the one thing we ALL have in common, is our love for our children. We want them to be healthy and happy and to thrive. We need to lift each other up instead of tearing each other down. Offer support, advice, help. Stop with the “You can’t sit with us” mentality and embrace one another. Being a mom is the MOST AWESOME thing that I have ever done, and will ever do. Nothing will top bringing a life ( or lives ) into this world. Nurturing them, loving them and teaching them. All moms want this for our kids, it’s universal. I implore you, love your fellow moms, reach out to them let them know that they are doing an amazing job. We are all Most Awesome Moms!
Thank you so much for reading,